“We are taught to lead with love for everyone else, often by becoming a ‘servant’ to their needs. But the real leadership begins with leading our own soul out of toxic energy. Staying in toxic, dark environments triggers a Cell Danger Response (CDR) that affects your cells and your children’s. The most loving act you can take is to remove yourself from the darkness. Today we are celebrating a member of Dee’s Dharma on 4 days of Alcohol Peace! That is true soul leadership.”

The Myth of the “Selfless Servant”

For decades, many of us—especially the parentified first-born fixers—have operated under a false narrative. We believed that to “Lead with Love” meant to be a silent observer of our own destruction. We did the dishes, we managed the household and we held the “Mickey Mouse” nights of white rum or the 60 oz weekends just to quiet the screaming in our souls.

Mickey Mouse and I share a Birthday, and I drank a mickey of rum most nights for 30 years. Minus when I was pregnant. We thought we were protecting the peace. In reality, we were bartering with the universe, trading our biological health for a temporary, toxic quiet.

The Biology of the “Dark Energy”

When you remain in a toxic environment, your body isn’t just “stressed”—it is in a Cell Danger Response (CDR). This is a metabolic shutdown. Your cells stop communicating, your mitochondria stop producing energy for growth and they go into a “defence” mode.

This isn’t just about you. Your children’s cells and souls are tuned into your frequency. When you are in biological lockdown, they feel the “dark energy” too. You cannot “clean eat” or exercise your way out of a toxic environment. You cannot “biohack” a soul-wound while you are still sleeping in a tent of tension.

The Macro & Micro Leak: As Above, So Below

We must realise that our “fast fixes” don’t just stop at our skin. These fast foods, fast sugars and fast boozes are drowning Mother Earth in the same way they drown our cells. With only 9% of materials being recycled globally, we are witnessing a planetary crisis—a leaky Mother Earth.

This isn’t a coincidence; it is a mirror. A leaky planet and a leaky body are connected. When we use toxic “fast” solutions to soothe our internal pain, we contribute to the external waste that is suffocating the environment. To heal one, we must begin to heal the other.

The “Inside Job” of Alcohol Peace

If you are currently self-soothing with “fast” toxins—fast food, fast sugar, fast booze and fast fashions—it is time to stop the self-sabotage. Your brain only knows what you tell it. If you are grabbing for that bottle, ask yourself the HALT questions:

• Hungry?

• Angry?

• Lonely?

• Tired?

Those aren’t cravings. Those are inner child wounds that need to be nurtured, not drowned.

Celebrating the Milestone

True soul leadership is what we are seeing today in our community. One of our own at Dee’s Dharma is now 4 days into her Alcohol Peace journey. She is no longer bartering. She is finally showing up for her inner child—the soul that has been waiting 50 years (or 27 or 16) to be protected. She is telling her cells: “We are safe now.”

Protecting the Nest

Earth Day is every day, but the most important environment you will ever manage is the one inside your skin. Unless you are an “Oops Baby” who was the 3rd parent, you must parent your own soul and cells to find C-PTSD Peace and rest in peace now in your moments.

Remove the dark energy. Draw the boundary. Finally, allow yourself the deep, restful sleep that comes when you stop being a servant to the toxic and start being a leader of your own light. You aren’t a ‘disorder’—you are a High-Sensing Person responding to a toxic Matrix.

As an Oops Baby Firstborn Fixer, your body has been carrying the burden for too long. Let’s seal the 40+ leaky barriers and return to your natural design.

I am here for you. If you are suffering and you want to stop, reach out. We lead with love, starting from the inside out.

Sending Loving Kindness from my heart to yours,
Dee
Non-Toxic Mom to Noah’s Non-Toxic Nest in a Toxic World.
Earth Age 59.5 & Cellular Age 41

The System Calls it Mental. The Earth Calls it Environmental.
You my Love, are not broken or a burden. The system is Broken. You are now out of the Matrix and safe with me.

Welcome to Sober Soul Care Sunday.

I see you. You lead with love and service but you are drowning because you’re too proud to ask for help. You’ve given up the booze, you eat organic, you stress-clean your home and your labs come back “clean”—yet you feel worse than ever.

You’re treading water and the doctors are telling you it’s “all in your head.”

This Easter, I am here to tell you: It is not mental. It is environmental. It is you pushing through the pain instead of pausing. Your worth is not in the push. It is in the Pause / paws.

Chronic stress drives your sympathetic nervous system—the fight, flight, freeze or fawn—into chronic inflammation for your cells and body. That anxiety you feel? It is neuroinflammation in your spine and brain.

You cannot begin to heal until your body knows it is safe to do so. Moving into a parasympathetic state is a choice and a practice. This is what I teach you: how to de-stress, detox, de-bloat and declutter for deep sleep, soul and cellular renewal.

There is a biological blueprint for cellular resurrection but you cannot “hustle” your way out of a cytokine storm.

There is a genetic link between Misophonia (sound sensitivity) and how our brains process environmental distress.

When your “womb and walls” are toxic, your genes cannot find peace.

I’ve been in that darkness. I’ve lived through decades of suicidal ideation that comes when your body feels like a cage, beginning at age 5.

I recently reached 4th out of 91st place in Daymond John’s Entrepreneur of Impact competition.

To continue, I had to travel—and with my history of Sick Building Syndrome and Mould Illness, I chose my “non-toxic nest” over a trophy because airplane air is very mouldy and toxic for leaky bodies.

Every ending is a rebirth. I will always choose Biological Stillness to protect my future cells and soul.

I reversed my own MS-type symptoms and internal bleeding in 4 months. No chemo. Just 3 weeks of biological stillness, baking soda fasting, autophagy lifestyle medicine, binders, showing up for my inner child aka soul who has been waiting for me to show up for her and 7 weeks of clearing the intergenerational lineage through my tears.

In this week’s new video on YouTube, I am deep-diving for my fellow health detectives into the Warburg Effect.

I implemented these protocols instinctively when I was in crisis in 2024, only recently learning the science behind how our cells “breathe” and use energy.

It ties perfectly into the message of Biological Stillness—we are moving our cells from a “fermentation/survival” state back into a “peace/oxygen” state.

If someone you love has had cancer and wants to know the root cause, this is for them.

When was the last time you cried the big cry and just kept on crying? In our trauma detox, tears are your medicine.

We live in a culture where tears are frowned upon but this is stored trauma and triggers that need to leave your body by letting go.

In 346 days, Canadian MAiD laws expand to “mental health.” We must reach the ones hanging on by a sliver of hope before they give up.

You are naturaleza and nature can heal in any environment but it cannot heal in the same environment that is making it sick.

My 5-star reviews are in: The 40-day trauma and toxin flush works.

Stop pushing peaceful heart. Start rooting.

Sending you Easter Blessings for your own cellular rebirth. If not now, when? In life we regret the things we didn’t do.

In loving kindness,

Dee Anne Berry Earth Age 59.5 | Cellular Age 41

I am Rooting for you. I love you.
Share in the comments or ask yourself: how do you show yourself and your cells love, tenderness and grace each day?

The link to this week’s deep dive on the Warburg Effect is in the comments below:

For 27 years, my son Noah has been writing the same words in my cards: “I am so proud of you. You are so strong”. I’ve spent my life fighting to stay alive—fighting CIRS, toxins and “Takers” who called me “Daft” to hide their own emptiness. I heard my son’s words, but I never felt them; I was too busy being pulled back down every time my star began to rise.

But today, sitting here in my 60th year of life, preparing for my 60th birthday this November 18th, the tears are falling—but they are massive tears of joy. In this, my Rebirth Year, I finally realized:

He’s right. I am strong. They always called me the “Finder” in my home and at work. I thought it was just a “Mom thing,” but it’s actually the Biohacker Detective in my blood. I don’t just find lost items; I find the Root Cause. And today, I found my own strength.

Sober Soul Care Sunday: My Journey with Pema

This past February, which was Heart Month, I did something just for me. I spent it in silence, attending masterclasses with my mentor, Pema Chödrön. I love silence—I loved the weeks during COVID when there were no planes in the sky. This is why I wish for Peace on Earth: for my misophonia.

If you are suffering with addiction, Pema was my mentor. When I walked through those red doors at Gampo Abbey in 2017, I finally felt at home. I found my “Why” to quit after 14 tries and on the 15th, I stopped cold turkey on November 21, 2017.

To begin healing, drink much more water than usual to flush toxins, rest and fast for three days. We don’t want to substitute one addiction for another sugar addiction.
Her teachings changed my life and as her 90th year approaches, she remains the #1 guest on my podcast bucket list.

March Awareness: Loving the Pieces You Can’t See

The calendar has turned to March and the energy has officially shifted. This month, we focus on the internal systems we often ignore:

• National Colon Cancer Awareness & National Kidney Month: This is the time to talk about the “pieces you can’t see”—your internal filtration systems that get bogged down by toxins and mould. Since 2013, I lived with symptoms that felt like cancer, but they disappeared in 3 weeks with my method once I addressed the root cause.

• National Nutrition Month: A tie-in for “loving your cells back to life” by removing fermenting “stinky toots” and chronic inflammation.

• National Women’s History Month: As I enter my 60th rebirth year, I am making my own history as a Soul Peace Doula.

• National Ethics Awareness Month: This aligns with my drive to change the MAiD laws and protect vulnerable souls before the March 17th, 2027 deadline.

Why I am Dissecting the Music of Our Youth

I am starting a weekly ritual to protect our hearts and our souls. Many songs we sang into hairbrushes as children were actually grooming us to accept toxic patterns as “love”.

In 1975, I was nine years old, rocking to “Mandy“ on repeat. Listening now with Sober Soul Care ears, those lyrics are a masterclass in the “hoovering” and control of a narcissist. I will be posting the full “Biohacker Detective” breakdown of the lyrics in the comments below—be sure to check it out!

The 2027 Crossroads

We have exactly one year left before March 17th, 2027—my parents’ wedding anniversary—when Canada’s MAiD laws may expand. I understand that darkness because I was hanging on to that date myself when doctors dismissed my pain. I am no longer fighting to stay alive; I am living to be Sovereign.

Thank you to those who have been patient; there will be many videos coming your way this month to help you heal and explain these complex topics as easily as possible.

My De-Stress with Dee Tip: When you’re ready to parent yourself, you must stop doing things that harm your future Cells. Stop the inflammation and love your cells back to life.

Member Tip: If you are reading this in your email, please hit the heart button at the very top! It translates this post directly to the Substack app—the best way to connect with other Rare Birds in the tribe and help our community grow.

The Vulnerable Question: Have you ever realized that a song you loved as a child was actually describing the very patterns you had to break as an adult?

My method only works and will cause harm if you use medicine, drink, eat processed foods, drink things from a can or plastic water bottles, love toxic souls and live in toxic walls.
IF you are a healthy person who is sick with sick kids and being medically gaslit, The BodhiBerry Peace Tree Method will help you rebirth your cells frugally when you are ready to pause for 3 weeks or more depending on how many traumas you have.
It took me 7 weeks to heal my mind and stools and 4 months to ditch the cane.

I love you so MUCH!!
You are Safe.
I got YOU!

Momma Lovey Dee,
Mothering the Unomothered
on your path to PTSD peace on a poisoned planet.

I take myself on dates all the time. Not because I’m lonely, but because I’ve finally built a safe space that isn’t reactive. Until you find someone who has done the hard work of detoxing the traumas and triggers stored in their tissues since birth, you are just inviting a reactive soul into your clean air.

Your body keeps the receipts.

If you aren’t passing that “one smooth banana” shape after 8 hours of deep sleep and after you eat, your body is still in a state of internal war.

You cannot heal a mother-wound or father wound with a box of chocolates. This week, put the oxygen mask on yourself.

Love your cells back to health.

🕒 A Piece of Peace for Your Home

As I celebrate my 3000th day of Addiction Peace yesterday, I’ve been designing daily reminders to help us stay grounded.
These “Path to Peace” clocks will be available soon at the Peaceful U store, and I would love your help!

Which one speaks to your soul?

• The “Heartbeat of Peace”

• The Soft Pastel “NOW”

• The Minimalist “11:11” Green

To vote: Simply hit reply to this email or drop a comment in the Substack app and let me know which design you’d want on your wall. I welcome constructive feedback as well, don’t be shy! :) These are for you.

Am I the only one who still loves a nice mindful clock? I am not attached to my phone or devices because they cause harm to our high-sensing bodies. I prefer to look at the wall and see the “Heartbeat of Peace” rather than a screen of notifications.

🕒 My 3000th day of Addiction Peace has taught me one thing: You cannot heal in the same environment that made you sick.

🌿 De-Stress with Dee Tip: You are the Medicine

If you are dealing with anything chronic, it is because you are under chronic stress and were likely born with a compromised immune system. This is especially for the “competitive holistic moms” who have clean labs and do “all the things, taking the right supplements and managing your stress,” yet you and your children are still sick.

Your kids are stressed, too. To shift the energy of your home, start with these small, soulful shifts:

• Humming & Love: Start humming and doing every task with love.

• Tactile Gratitude: When washing dishes, really feel the water. I rarely use scrubbing tools; I connect my energy and gratitude for the simple ability to wash a dish.

• The Flow of Connection

  • Quiet Acts of Service: Shovel a neighbour’s path before they wake up. Smile at those you pass on your walks.

  • The Shared Thread: These aren’t just chores or gestures; they are reminders that we are all connected. We are all nature.

  • The High-Sensing Soul: This is why we feel a deep, physical sadness when a tree is cut down—and why we find our grounding by hugging one. It is our direct connection to Mother Earth.

  • The Vital Question: If you are not connected to your own soul—nurturing it with non-toxic food and drink—how can you truly expect to connect with another in peace?

• Connection: Hum to your pets, especially at meal time for the anxious pets who eat too fast and rub their tailbone:)
  I match Thumper’s purrs while we dance during my midday breaks.

The Hard Truth:

We can’t put new toxins in while detoxing old toxins out.

Your body is already overloaded with trauma and triggers stored since birth. I have been detoxing for two years because I was allergic to the air I was breathing while loving toxic souls and had a lifetime of trauma to release.

My first month Sept. 2024, I cried in bed while fasting for three weeks.

If you have histamine overload, CIRS, POTS or MCAS even “healthy” teas might be too much. Stick to water and pure intention. Stop pushing. Start protecting.

You are the medicine. You are Loved.
It’s not ’Menopause’ but we must pause so these years can be a breeze and your golden years can overflow with ease, vitality and grace.
Let’s make your second season the most soulful yet. 💛🌿

Happy Heart Week. For me, heart day is every day. Loving your leaky soul back to health is the greatest gift you can give yourself. What you are seeking has been within you all along.

Sending Loving Kindness from my heart to yours,

Momma Lovey Dee
Mothering the Unmothered
PS: If you are dating, listen to your skin.

Goosebumps are the "yes." Butterflies are often a warning of danger—a trauma bond in disguise. Choose the peace that helps you fly.

This is for the highly sensitive peacekeeper, the problem solver and the people pleaser. It is for the perfectionist and the procrastinator who felt parentified, petrified and found themselves drowning in mould toxins and addictions.

It isn’t you; it’s your environment. It is the toxic air we breathe while pushing our bodies to their absolute limits. It is the toxic souls we love deeply who will never truly see us or love us back—until we walk away and redirect that love to ourselves. We must heal our inner child and our toxic womb (the body).

If you are drowning in shame, know that I did too for 30 years as a personal trainer who should know better until I found my “why” in 2017. I chose to live in peace, no longer hooked by my thoughts, and I took my power back for addiction peace.

Why the Highly Sensitive Soul Struggles with Addiction

For the Human Canary, addiction is often a biological trap, not a moral failing:

• The MTHFR Trap: Mutations like MTHFR can lead to a “Dopamine Gap,” making the brain starve for the “okay” feeling that substances temporarily provide.

• CIRS & MCAS: Mould toxicity (CIRS) and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) create a “cytokine storm” of neuro-inflammation.

• Histamine Overload: Alcohol is high in histamine and blocks the enzymes that clear it, leading to “internal vibrations,” brain fog and dark thoughts.

• Systemic Harm: For a highly sensitive body, booze acts as “metabolic sludge,” overwhelming a liver already struggling to clear biotoxins.

We need to stop talking about labels and start talking about sanctuary. When your ‘histamine bucket’ is overflowing from toxic walls and toxic souls, your body screams for relief. I found my way out through root-cause truth and reparenting my inner child.

As we begin #BellLetsTalk week, let’s move the conversation from ‘what’s wrong with you’ to ‘what happened to your environment?’

The Root-Cause Bridge: It’s not mental. It’s Environmental.

If you want your doctor to get to the root cause of your issues, I created a letter for you to bring to your appointment. It includes the specific tests to ask for—the ones that look deeper than the “standard” labs that have been dismissing your pain for years.

You can find the letter and the test list here:

The Silent Observer’s SOS

Here is a SOS grid I made for the 15-20% of us—the silent observers. If you feel comfy, please share your emoji in the comments below at Dee’s Dharma.

You are not alone.

Hugs,

Dee

👉 Alcohol-induced sleep is not restorative

👉 Sugar makes the nervous system more fragile

👉 Synthetic meds hit highly sensitive bodies like a freight train

👉 Environmental illness can mimic bipolar, ADHD, anxiety and BPD

👉 Doctors often miss it when your body looks “healthy”

Did you know many of us who hear every little noise at night… the fridge hum, the neighbour’s sneeze, the mouse toot through two closed doors… were never mentally ill at all?

We were environmentally ill.

Sensitive not sick.

Misdiagnosed because our bodies speak louder than the average nervous system.

If this sounds like you, you have found your people.

I’m writing this for…

• 🌙 Light sleepers who shut down in bright lights and wake at the slightest noise

• 💜 Deep feelers who carry emotions like sacred medicine

• 🌌 Sober curious night thinkers searching for peace in the quiet hours

• 🕊️ Sweet silent observers of life who wouldn’t hurt a fly

• 👩‍👧 Parents caring for unwell kids while holding everyone else together

• 🍷 Those who self‑soothed with alcohol just to fall asleep

• 🔎 Lifelong health detectives who rarely caught colds but still got knocked down by mold, Long COVID, CIRS, MCAS and cytokine storms

• 🫀 First‑born fixer‑type parentified hearts who grew up in tense homes with no hugs and still carry the burden of being “the strong one”

• 🩺 Those dismissed by doctors, suffering in silence with inflammation that brings dark thoughts

• ❓ Anyone asking yourself why they can’t find the root cause

You’re not broken and you were never too sensitive you were too environmentally sensitive for a world that keeps pretending humans are metal instead of nature.

For decades I thought my suffering since age 5 was because of trauma alone.

Turns out it was trauma plus toxic air

trauma plus a leaky microbiome

trauma plus environmental illness misdiagnosed as mental illness

trauma plus a nervous system that was working overtime since the womb.

If I hadn’t stopped the booze, sugar, processed foods and synthetic meds I would not be here today and I say that with my whole chest.

Today’s video on the new Sober Soul Love channel — a 420‑friendly space with medical marijuana reviews — is for those of you who thought you were mentally ill when really you were living with CIRS, environmental triggers, toxin overload and a hyper‑aware sensory system designed by nature.

We are the ones who feel the world before it happens.

We sense danger before others smell it.

We absorb tension before anyone speaks.

We shut down in bright lights and wake up at the slightest noise and think it’s our fault.

It’s not your fault.

It’s your wiring.

It’s your biology and your biology is beautiful.

De-Stress With Dee Tip

Tonight, create a small “sleep buffer zone” — sometimes called sleep hygiene.

Dim the lights early

reduce stimulation

hydrate your microbiome (finishing at least 3 hours before bed and before 11pm)

turn off synthetic scents and give your nervous system something it never got in childhood: predictable calm.

Your sensitivity is not a weakness.

It is intelligence and nature always knew your truth even when the world called it illness.

If you self soothe because of sexual trauma or decades of narcissistic relationships that wore your nervous system thin.

You are safe here.
Seen here.
Held here.

We are all connected on the path to c-ptsd peace in a toxic world.
In Loving Kindness from Canada’s Capital,
Dee Anne Berry,
De-Stress With Dee SOS💜

💬 Share your sleep buffer rituals in the comments so we can inspire each other.

🎂 The Birthday Effect: Why Sensitive Bodies Feel More on Certain Days

Research across several countries shows a small but consistent rise in stress-related health events on or near birthdays. Scientists describe a pattern where emotional intensity, reflection and internal pressure can influence how the body feels and functions.

Possible contributors include:

• Emotional stress or reflection

• Old memories resurfacing

• Social expectations to “be okay”

• Changes in routines, food or alcohol

• Biological rhythms responding to heightened emotion

Birthdays can be joyful, but for many highly sensitive people, they can quietly stir up heaviness that’s hard to explain.

🎄 The Holiday Effect:
When “Special Days” Feel Harder Than They Look

Data also shows that major holidays — Christmas, New Year’s and culturally meaningful dates — come with increased emotional strain and physical stress for many people.

Reasons include:

• delayed self-care or medical care

• loneliness inside relationships

• sensory overwhelm

• family conflict or pressure

• long-standing patterns from childhood

• cold weather and seasonal exhaustion

These dates can intensify everything the body is already carrying.

📊 What This Means for Sensitive Nervous Systems

Population studies highlight something many highly sensitive adults already feel:
big dates bring big emotions.

Those with C-PTSD patterns, chronic stress, CIRS-like symptoms, MCAS-like reactions, misophonia, trauma-linked health issues or nervous system fatigue often experience deeper waves around:

• birthdays

• anniversaries

• seasonal celebrations

• family gatherings

• cultural holidays

For sensitive bodies, the load isn’t “in the mind.”
It’s in the nervous system.

And the nervous system remembers everything.

💛 Why These Days Can Hit Differently

Many readers here grew up:

• holding too much

• being the quiet first-born

• absorbing the emotional tone of the home

• being the peacekeeper

• being the parentified child

• navigating unsafe or unpredictable environments

This creates patterns such as:

• staying on high alert

• nervous system exhaustion

• trouble resting or sleeping

• difficulty digesting food or emotions

• sensitivity to noise, scents, conflict

• overwhelm during gatherings

• pressure to “perform happiness”

These responses are not weaknesses.
They are survival adaptations from earlier years.

And when significant dates arrive, the body often responds before the mind understands why.

💬 Why This Community Holds Space on Tender Days

Support matters most on the days when the world expects happiness, productivity or celebration. Sensitive adults navigating sobriety, grief, chronic stress, seasonal triggers or emotional exhaustion often feel invisible during these times.

This space stays open because:

• nervous systems don’t take holidays off

• healing doesn’t pause for a calendar

• sensitive bodies feel more during milestone moments

• quiet people often carry the heaviest emotional loads

• many are healing from environments that never saw them clearly

You deserve places where tenderness is normal, not judged.

🌿 What This Space Offers Every Sunday

This is a home for adults who are:

• highly sensitive

• healing from childhood stress or trauma

• exhausted from carrying too much

• navigating sober living

• overstimulated by noise, scents or emotional tension

• confused by symptoms the medical system often overlooks
  learn more in today’s video on youtube.
  Could Mold Be Causing Your Suffering?

• rebuilding health from the inside out

The intention each week is simple:
to help rebuild inner safety, digestion, sleep, breathing, presence and peace.

Sensitive bodies have unique rhythms.
This community honours them.

💜 A Message for Your Heart Today

You are not too sensitive.
You are not dramatic.
You are not alone.

You are a human being with a finely tuned nervous system living in a world that has not yet learned how to care for sensitive bodies.

If today feels heavy, slow or tender, this is your reminder:

• your feelings make sense

• your body isn’t failing you

• your sensitivity is wisdom and you are listening to your body’s whispers

• your depth is not a flaw

• your story matters

You are loved.
You matter.
And you deserve support every day — not only on the “good” days.

Dee, Let’s Talk💜
Created in honour of the souls gone before they desired… my mom, my stepmom, my stepson and Patrick who passed today at 51.

Your body is telling a story.

Does the sun make your eyes water a lot?
Is your nose running all day?
Are you a sensitive light sleeper with a bloated belly, food fears and an anxious mind?
Wired but exhausted, spending more time in the bathroom than you’d like?

If you’ve been using alcohol, sugar or other substances to calm an exhausted nervous system or numb the old trauma your body still carries, I understand. I lived that life.

This space is not for expert biohackers. It is for those ready to become the expert of their own body.

I created the BodhiBerry Peace Tree Method™ for this reason. I have nothing to sell. I want you well. These are the pillars I teach for a sustainable path forward:

🌿 Peace
Calming a wired nervous system without substances.

🌿 Presence
Listening to your body’s wisdom, not the shame.

🌿 Practical Tools
Removing hidden toxins that keep you stuck and inflamed.

🌿 Personal Soul Love Care
Healing childhood wounds so you can build a deeper relationship with your self and others.

You are not a burden. Your system has been overburdened.
You are wise and your body is telling the truth.

This is my 418th Sunday with what I call Addiction Peace.

Sobriety is not the absence of substances.
It is the presence of self love and self respect for the parts of us we cannot see — the inner child who grew up in tension, never felt fully held and still feels like a burden today.

This Sober Soul Care Sunday I invite you to take one small step toward becoming the expert of your own body.

If you are ready to find your path to peace, reply with the word SKOOL if this arrived in your inbox or comment SKOOL below for details on our 40 day toxin and trauma detox in January.

No meds needed. Everything is done slowly, frugally and with foods fuelled by the sun when it is safe for our histamine overloaded bodies.

Your body knows the way. Let’s listen together. 🙏

Dee
Let’s Talk

I spent 45 years battling anorexia, dark thoughts and chronic pain. At 58 I discovered a 40 day protocol that changed everything. I reversed anxiety and depression, healed my IBS and walked away from my cane.

No meds needed. It is not mental illness. It is environmental illness.

This is the path to lasting c-ptsd peace for highly sensitive souls and first born peacemakers seeking peace.

You are not alone. 🙏

Sending loving kindness from Canada’s Capital, it was a beautiful day here for the end of November. I am thankful for each bonus breath as I move through my 59th year of life.

Thank you for being here, I appreciate you.
Dee, Let’s Talk!

I’ve been asking this question daily to my son for years. We check in throughout the day, because nothing is permanent—including how we feel.

🧡 A little housekeeping: If my posts are landing in your spam, click the ⭐️ star above to move them to your inbox.

Today, I’m a 10. I have no complaints. I am content. And that, to me, is the goal when living mindfully with Buddhist practices.

But it wasn’t always this way.

I once drowned in deep suffering. I drank so much booze because I couldn’t bring myself to physically end it. In my youth, I ate cotton balls ( anorexic eating disorder voice) and self-harmed to ease the pain to distract my depression.

But the universe needed me to stay.

I am a rare bird—one who’s been tracking my health and my late mother’s since the 1980s. Decades of bio-hacking, healing and searching for the root cause.

And now, I’ve reached the finish line.

I’ve healed the lifelong issues that began in the womb.

Environmental illness. Sick building syndrome. Mould illness. These were the hidden drivers of my constant stress and inflammation. They led to chronic conditions that no doctor could name.

Now, I help cycle-breakers end the cycle— of chronic illness, fatigue, pain, inflammation and our C-PTSD addiction stress.

🧠 Sober Soul Care Sunday | What Are You Addicted To?

“I have survived many acts of violence and violation against my body and always led a life of love, knowing that hurt people hurt people—including themselves. I was one of them. The traumas—some brief, some prolonged, all deeply wounding.

For years, I stayed in abusive relationships, believing this was what I deserved. I was born into a home where love felt absent, where I felt like a burden.

I didn’t know how to escape and I didn’t feel strong enough to try. But I now understand: it wasn’t weakness. It was survival. And I am no longer ashamed of the ways my body tried to protect me.”

🌿 Opening Reflection

What are you addicted to?

Alcohol, Sugar, Scrolling, Shopping, Over-exercising, Work, Relationships, Control

I’ve lived through them all.

🔥 The Truth I’ve Lived

While helping others heal since the 80s, I was suffering in silence with my own addictions—trying to be the perfect health nut, the peacemaker, the first-born who could never sleep well.

I never wanted to be a burden.

I was told daily by my mother that I was the cause of her divorce, her pain, her bad days.

She took her frustrations out on me.

And I accepted it.

I had strong shoulders.

I cared.

It was one of my many gifts—one I kept quiet most of my life.

Until I hit 40. That’s when I started meeting others like me.

I thought I was the only one who received messages from the universe.

🌌 My Intuition, My Calling

I’ve learned when others are about to pass—before they do. I reach out because the universe guides me to. And then it’s up to them: Are they ready to awaken to a peaceful life or still sleepwalking?

I am an intuitive.

A highly empathetic soul.

An Intuitive Relationship & Clairsentient Soul Alignment Guide.

When I was a child, I already knew. I just didn’t have the language yet.

🔥 The Truth Doctors Miss

We are not mentally ill.

We are environmentally ill.

We are inflamed, overloaded and grieving in bodies that were never given a clean start.

Especially those of us born first—into toxic wombs, toxic homes and toxic systems.

Last fall, I collapsed in front of a doctor fresh out of med school.

Seizing.

Shaking. In a full cytokine storm.

He told me it was mental. Dismissed me. No apology. No accountability.

But the hospital saw my channel—De-Stress With Dee SOS—and they saw the truth.

I am part of the solution. And so are you. There will be those with dark souls and loud egos who try to silence your bright light. Don’t let them.

🧬 The Invisible Load of First-Borns

We receive the highest toxic load in the womb.

We are born into grief, into stress, into environments that shape our addictions before we even speak.

And when our bodies scream in midlife, they call it menopause. But it’s not. It’s inflammation.

It’s SIBO.

It’s histamine overload. It’s leaky body syndrome. It’s environmental illness.

🌫️ What the Research Confirms

• Mold exposure during pregnancy can cause respiratory issues, immune dysfunction and systemic inflammation in both mother and baby.

• Environmental toxins like pesticides, heavy metals and endocrine disruptors interfere with fetal brain development and immune system formation.

• Chronic maternal stress alters the baby’s stress response system, increasing risks of C-PTSD, anxiety and addiction later in life.

• Lifelong trauma starting in childhood—especially when unprocessed—can lead to a cascade of chronic illnesses:

  • Increased risk of chronic pain, gastrointestinal issues, hypertension and autoimmune disorders

  • Disrupted brain development and hormonal regulation, leading to emotional dysregulation, anxiety and depression

  • Higher likelihood of developing cardiovascular disease, inflammation-related conditions and premature aging

These exposures don’t just disappear.

They live in our tissues. Until we detox them. Until we grieve them. Until we honour the body that carried them.

💔 The System That Doesn’t See Us

Disability in Canada doesn’t recognize environmental illness. After a 3-year battle, I am done asking to be seen. I am resting in peace now—while still living in service.

Because someone, somewhere, will hear this message and carry it forward.

Just like my mom before me.

Same symptoms. Same silence. Same systemic gaslighting.
She was loud trying to be seen and heard.

I chose a different path as a silent observer of life.

💧 The Healing Invitation

If you are addicted, know this: It’s not weakness. It’s your body trying to survive.

Your environment, your unprocessed grief, your chronic stress—they are fuelling your choices.

And they will stay in your tissues until you detox them.

This is not your fault. But it is your time. To heal To hydrate To honour your soul.

💗 Community Love & Healing Acknowledgement

Before we close, I want to take a moment to acknowledge a beloved soul in our sangha community who underwent breast cancer surgery this past week.

If you feel called, please send peaceful love and extra healing strength her way.

Wrap her in your loving kindness prayers, your light, your quiet whispers of hope.
She is not alone. We are with her—in spirit, in breath, in healing intention.

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada’s Capital,
Momma Lovey Dee :)

You are not a burden. You are Love. You are Peace. You are not broken—your tissues are simply overburdened with toxins.

Today on Canadian Thanksgiving I give thanks to water. 💧

Without it I wouldn’t be here — grounded on this dock breathing peace wishing my brother’s daughters a happy birthday tomorrow, my son his 27th but already surprised with a party in six days and holding the sacred memory of my late mom on October 15th.

It’s a gratitude that runs deep like the thaw after a long freeze.

It reminds me of the Ice Storm of ‘98. A time when the world literally froze over and yet life persisted. My brother and I both got to share the incredible joy of announcing new life that year.

Fun fact: Noah’s grandparents had two grand-kids born that very week and then one more 6 years later on the same day the first was born.

Noah was two weeks late—he was cozy :) and knew our environment was toxic in a low-income apartment filled with mould.

I jest he had his Dad’s large head ;)))

Any other Canadian Ice Storm Moms out there who gave birth this month in 98? Share in the comments.

That same resilient energy is what it takes to heal a body that has been through its own storm.
A cytokine storm.

The photo I share today isn’t just an image it’s a testament.
It’s the calm after my storm. I no longer need a cane to walk.

And a fundamental part of that journey was something most people overlook entirely.

What is the first thing you drink when you wake up?
Coffee?
Juice box?
Sugar?
Pop?
Something from a can?

Of these which will give your body life not deplete it?

I’ve known so many who felt dead inside, just going through the motions.

Their transformation often began with a simple act:
drinking water, inspired by the gallon jug I bring everywhere. That’s why when a client says, ‘I don’t like water,’ I tell them, ‘Let’s connect back when you do.’ Because readiness to heal is a readiness to finally listen to what your body truly craves.

Water has been my medicine my mirror my healer. As soon as I wake up I drink two cups of water because we lose water while we sleep. When we detox we stop eating and drinking 3 hours before bed...with just sips if needed.

For the parentified firstborn midlife sober single CEO Moms from childhood sexual trauma, we are often the sickest on the planet. We are experts at loving the same type of negative soul, only with a different face.

We received the highest toxic load in the womb unless our moms lived in non toxic environments. We are the stress cleaners cleaning the mould toxins and doing all the holistic mindful things and still being gaslit by doctors who want to push medicine instead of finding the root cause.

I know this because I lived it. I had nine miscarriages loving toxic souls living in toxic environments putting alcohol and coke in my body for 30 years.

When I stopped in 2017 the real work began. And this nurturing work will continue until my last breath.

After decades I now understand it was never just “mental illness.” It was environmental illness. Mould. Sick buildings. Toxins. Chronic inflammation.

A body trying to protect me from the pain it carried since the womb.

When I stopped drinking alcohol, soda and everything in a can I had to learn how to hydrate — how to love my body with every sip.

I was always a water girl. The only things I ever drank were milk water rum coke and ginger ale till I stopped the booze in 2017.

Then I added healing teas to restore my fatty liver and microbiome. I never drank anything hot till my 50’s :)

I learned that we live in an overfed, dehydrated world. If you are not drinking lots of water you will age faster and get sick quicker.

When you stop drinking poison you need to drink more water to help with the detoxification process.

The first 3 days I fasted and drank water giving my fatty liver a rest. When a craving hits go to H.A.L.T - hungry angry lonely tired - and feed your inner child needs first.

Meet the need don’t feed the pattern.

My body was screaming with a leaky gut SIBO mould illness and a compromised immune system that led to me getting COVID four times.

It wasn’t menopause it was a lifetime of environmental illness that no colonoscopy could uncover.

I figured it out not in a doctor’s office but with the help of a firefighter named Linda who told me about mould illness.

Fasting, resting, OMAD and finally listening to my body — that’s how I found peace. Now at 59 next month, my symptoms are gone.

IBS, internal bleeding, fungal arthritis, anxiety, depression and insomnia — healed. No meds needed.

If you are dealing with any type of addiction know that your environments and toxic souls are driving it.

They distract your depression and soothe your chronic anxiety caused by toxins in the air and in your body.

They don’t leave your body till you detox them.

This week as we give thanks I am giving thanks for the simplest most powerful healer we have.

Water. It is the foundation of the calm after my storm.

And it can be for you too.

What is one way you can honour your body’s need for water today?

With love and deep gratitude from Canada’s Capital,
Momma Lovey Dee,
your safe anchor in your cytokine storms.

This week marks 413 Sundays of Addiction Peace since I let go of booze, soda and toxic foods. My lifelong eating disorders were not about willpower — they were rooted in toxic environments I lived in since birth, starting in my mother’s womb.

One year into healing leaky muscles, brain, body — and more than 40 leaky barriers — I can walk without a cane. My internal bleeding since 2013, IBS, arthritis, sleep struggles, menopause, ADHD and mental health battles have disappeared as chronic inflammation melted away.

For decades, I thought I had “mental illness.” But the truth was:
👉 My body was leaking stress + trauma.
👉 My environment was making me sick (mould, toxins, sick buildings).
👉 My addictions were never the problem — they were a response to pain stored in my tissues.

Addiction peace is not just sobriety — it’s learning how to eat again without fear after a lifetime of eating disorders and food fears.

It’s the foundation of the Buddha Berry Peace Tree Method:
restoring our microbiome, healing fatty liver and leaky bodies and reclaiming a life of deep, mindful inner peace.

As parentified first-borns, we never learned self-care.

Instead, we became perfectionists, overachievers, stress-cleaners and people-pleasers — carrying the weight of an abusive mother, an absent father and burdens that were never ours to hold.

It’s choosing peace for your microbiome, liver and soul.
It’s protecting your nervous system like your life depends on it — because it does.

💡 Soul Care Tip
When the urge hits for sugar, booze or toxic foods—pause.
Remember your why.

My first why was my son.
Now, my why is me—protecting my peace in all ways.

Also, be mindful of H.A.L.T.
When we’re Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, we’re vulnerable.
These unmet inner child needs often drive our addiction of choice— not because we’re weak but because we’re trying to distract our depression.

🌱 Meet the need.
🌱 Honour the feeling.
🌱 Choose peace over the pattern.

You are not broken. You are healing. And you are not alone.

Sending loving kindness from Canada’s capital 💜
You are not alone on your path to peace.
Take my hand—I’m just like you, just a few steps ahead.

How many Sundays of peace have you lived?

“Peace is the hammock you build within.”
~ Dee Anne Berry

I see you.

The responsible one since forever.
The high-achiever, the first-born, the parentified child who powered through childhood trauma by being good at everything.

And now, you’re doing all the “right holistic things” to heal your leaky, scared, exhausted, burnt-out body…

Only to be gaslit by doctors who tell you it’s “just” mental illness or ‘aging’. 😮‍💨

I was you. I know the frustration and the fatigue when our healthy strong holistic vegan bodies are silencing gene markers.

I am living proof that when we courageously detox the toxins from our environment and from our tissues, something profound happens.

The inflammation vanishes.
The nervous system settles.
And all that remains is a deep, abiding peace.

The kind of peace that allows for 8 hours of deep, restorative sleep. ✨

That’s what 412 Sundays of addiction peace represents since 2017.

🌱 It’s not just sobriety.

It’s the somatic quiet that comes after the storm.

This journey has taught me to flow like water instead of forcing.
To rest like the trees instead of producing.
To love myself like the sun—unconditionally. 🌞

Pausing on silent retreats to restore this body is the deepest gift I continue to give myself. 🎁

It is the ultimate act of saying:
I am the one who cares for me.
I am the one who protects my C-PTSD peace. 💜

If you’re a high-achiever fighting for your health, I want to ask you:

How are you choosing to protect your peace today without adding toxins to your tissues? 🤍

Sending Loving Kindness wrapped in a 21-Second Hug from Canada’s Capital,
Dee

You are Love. ❤️
You are Peace. 💜
You are Energy. 🌱

How is your Energy?

If you are still struggling to release toxic soda, I shared a video how I finally gave up pop once I knew it could clean my toilet bowl.

Here’s what I’ve learned on my healing path:

✨ The way to mental peace is learning to let go through non-attachment
✨ The way to ease dis-ease is to detox the toxins—both from our bodies and our environments
✨ The way to deep soul peace is to pause, breathe and protect your C-PTSD peace with daily soul care rituals

Because trauma and toxins hide in our tissues… but poop keeps the receipts.

🌿 Inner Peace = Outer Peace = World Peace 🌿

My mission is peace on earth.
But I know it begins within me and you.
We all need to do our part to be part of the solution for Peace on Earth.
Share in the comments what you are doing to protect your peace each day?

Protecting my own C-PTSD peace allows me to live sober, mindful and aligned.

When I care for my body with simplicity, I’m not just healing myself—I’m planting seeds of peace in the world.

Alcohol, soda and sugar may numb us for a moment but they’re toxic for the microbiome.
That toxicity shows up as IBS, restless sleep, mood swings, anxiety and brain fog.

Over time it becomes burnout, despair and disconnection.

But there is another way.
One that doesn’t require meds or expensive hacks.

Just Mother Nature, mindful nourishment and daily soul care.

🍃 A Sangha for Peace Seekers

On this International Day of Peace,
Together we are learning how to:

🌱 Stop hurting our body, brain and being
🌱 Release trauma and toxins
🌱 Live a life of deep inner peace—sober, serene and unafraid

If you’ve carried addictions, childhood trauma, mental health struggles or the weight of menopause, know this:
healing is possible.

It begins with detoxing dis-ease, protecting your peace and remembering—
💜 The only person who can truly take care of you is you.

🌍🍂 Closing Reflection

This International Day of Peace arrives just as the season turns—the fall equinox reminding us of balance, letting go and beginning anew.

Take a moment to pause.
Place your hand on your heart and whisper:

✨ “I am love. I am peace. I am safe.” 💜

Because if not now, when?
When your body is whispering for you to pause—let this be your sign.

When we listen, when we rest, when we nurture ourselves—we plant seeds of peace within. And inner peace is what ripples outward to create outer peace and ultimately world peace.

💬 Sangha,
What’s one simple soul-care practice you will choose today to protect your peace? Share it below—we rise in peace together. 🌿

🌱 How to Live in Peace in a Toxic World

Peace isn’t something we stumble upon—it’s something we intentionally protect. For me, living with C-PTSD and healing from mold illness, trauma and chronic inflammation, I’ve learned that peace begins with how we care for our body, our home and our relationships.

Here are the practices that help me detox, restore and live in peace in a toxic world:

1. Detox Toxins from Body & Tissues

• Gentle fasting & hydration – giving the body space to heal naturally

• Liver support through sleep – your liver detoxifies most efficiently at night. Protect your bedtime like sacred space

• Sweat & movement – dancing, stretching or moving daily releases toxins from tissues

2. Restore the Microbiome 🌱

• 25+ plant foods a week – diversity is key, fibre feeds the good bacteria

• Fermented foods – sauerkraut, kimchi, kefir add live probiotics

• Probiotics & supplements – multi-strain support helps reset balance

3. Ditch Toxins We Put In

• Say no to alcohol, soda & processed sugar – they inflame and age us

• Choose clean personal care – skin absorbs what we put on it

• Filter water & air – lungs, kidneys and skin thrive on clean inputs

4. Protect Sleep Like Peace Medicine 😴

• Keep a dark, cool, screen-free bedroom

• Rise and rest with natural light

• Support circadian rhythm with grounding, red light or calming teas

5. Walk Away from Stressful People 🚶‍♀️

• No gossip, gaslighting or abuse

• Choose safe, supportive company

• Remember: walking away isn’t losing, it’s choosing peace

6. Make Your Home Your Sanctuary 🏡

• Declutter & dust – mould loves dust

• Add plants, light & fresh air – bring nature inside

• Surround yourself with calming colours & peaceful cues

7. Daily Rituals for Peace 🌸

• Place your hand on your heart and affirm: “I am love. I am peace. I am safe.”

• Journal, pray or meditate under your “Buddha Berry Peace Tree”

• Connect with pets, nature and movement—small joys ripple outward

✨ The Result? When toxins and chronic inflammation leave the body, only peace remains. This is how we reverse aging, restore energy and live with presence in a toxic world.

🌿 Inner peace = outer peace = world peace 🌿

✨ If you’re interested in joining our next masterclass
Protect Your Peace: Detoxing Trauma & Environmental Illness — where we’ll explore how to release trauma toxins from your body, tissues and environment so you can live in peace in a toxic world — just reply to this email with the subject Masterclass and I’ll keep you posted. 🌿

I’ll be keeping it small on Zoom so there’s space for your questions.

Protect your peace, plant your seeds, live your heart song.
Peace begins within.
Dee

But once I learned how acidic it was, could clean my toilet bowl and how it wrecked my microbiome and worsened my leaky body syndrome—I stopped.
Cold turkey. Because when we know better, we do better.

The first thing I did to start healing my life-threatening leaky muscles and body was take ¼ tsp of baking soda on an empty stomach each morning while fasting for three weeks.
Then I added binders—clay in the morning to detox metals from my tissues, and activated charcoal in the evening.

Now I sip on healing drinks that love me back—gut-friendly, soul-soothing and inflammation-reducing.

💬 Let’s share the love, drop in the comments what healthy drinks you’re loving right now and or if you need some suggestions on what to drink to restore peace in your gut.

Because what happens to your Buddha belly also happens to your brain.

September 7, 2025 – A Moon We Won’t See, But Will Deeply Feel
This eclipse isn’t visible in Canada, but its emotional impact is undeniable. Pisces is the sign of endings, intuition and soul surrender.

And lunar eclipses—especially in Pisces—don’t just stir the tides.
They stir our tissues, our traumas, our truths.

Astrologers say the effects of a lunar eclipse can last up to six months because eclipses mark karmic turning points.

They activate long arcs of healing, especially when aligned with Saturn and Neptune in Pisces.

This one? It’s a soul detox.

A call to release what’s been silently poisoning our inner peace.

🧘‍♀️ For the Parentified Healer, the Purpose-Driven Pleaser, the Addicted Empath

This Sunday is for you—the one who’s been addicted to sugar, booze, love, smoking, scrolling, fast fashion, over-exercising and over-giving.

Not because you’re weak but because you were strong for too long in a toxic world.

I’ve been there.
I’ve walked through multiple betrayals, abandonment and grief.

I’ve held friends, pushing her wheelchair up Gatineau hills, painting toes to lift spirits.
I’ve driven seven hours to show up for someone after she told me she nearly died, offering my place so she could heal in peace with no distractions.

I’ve smiled through a deep heartbreak on September 24, 2023.
Smiled through gut-punching betrayals uncovered at a birthday party where everyone knew he’d been with her for two years—everyone but me.

And I stayed sober through the storm with addiction peace that I have fought so hard for since 2017.

Day 3 of #40daysofcanadiangivingthanks
Today, I honour the sacred act of walking away.

I now walk away from anything that doesn’t bring me inner peace—no matter how familiar, how long I’ve carried it or how deeply it once mattered.

🌑 Eclipse Soul Work: Detoxing Trauma, Tissues & Triggers

This eclipse is activating our need to: Release addictions rooted in trauma and toxic overload

Heal our microbiome, fatty liver and nervous system

Reclaim our inner child’s peace and protect our children’s health

Let go of betrayal stories that began with those meant to protector our peace in our homes.

Honour the grief of friends who disappeared—and the grace of those who showed up

🌕 Blood Moon Eclipse Soul Horoscope

September 7, 2025 – Day 3 of #40DaysOfCanadianGivingThanks by De-Stress With Dee

Dear Sangha,

This weekend’s Corn Moon rises with a rare Blood Moon Eclipse, painting the sky in red and stirring something ancient in our bones. It’s the final full moon of summer—a mirror reflecting what we’re ready to release and what we’re finally ready to receive.

For me, this moon holds deep meaning.

It reminds me of the quiet strength I’ve cultivated as a parentified child, a single mom and a soul who chose healing over hiding.

It’s a cosmic invitation to reflect on love—soul love—and what it means to build relationships that heal instead of repeat old wounds.

🌌 Soul Horoscope: Inner Child Edition

This Blood Moon opens a portal for inner child healing. Each sign is being called to remember, release, and reclaim:

• Aries – You were strong too early.
  Rest is brave.

• Taurus – You deserve softness and change.
  Stability doesn’t mean stagnation.

• Gemini – Speak your truth.
  Your voice matters.

• Cancer – You don’t have to parent everyone.
  Let yourself be held.

• Leo – You are more than performance.
  Play without needing applause.

• Virgo – Perfectionism was protection.
  You’re safe to be messy and loved.

• Libra – People-pleasing isn’t peace.
  Choose yourself first.

• Scorpio – You were taught to hide.
  Let your emotions be seen.

• Sagittarius – You escaped through adventure.
  Now root and feel.

• Capricorn – You carried too much.
  Let go of the weight.

• Aquarius – You felt misunderstood.
  Your weird is wonderful.

• Pisces – You absorbed others’ pain.
  Return to your own joy and boundaries.
  
  Share in the comments if this resonated with you.

This eclipse isn’t here to judge you. It’s here to hold you. To remind you: You are not broken. You are blooming. You are not cursed. You are the cure.

If you feel called to look deeper, tell me your Sun, Moon and Rising signs in the comments at

🌿Dee’s Dharma🙏 Root Cause Soul Medicine for Inner Peace💜

Holistic Lifestyle Medicine for the Parentified, wired & tired since birth We cracked the code on chronic illness, mental health, suicide, addiction & Weight Loss Heal leaky body, gut sleep, SBS+IBS+MCAS+CIRS at the Root with the Buddha Berry Tree Method™

By De-Stress With Dee

and I’ll tell you what house this Pisces eclipse is activating in your chart—what area of your life is asking for this compassionate release over the next 6 months.

Remember the mantra that guided me through:

"Send grace, knowing that those who can give freely are the ones who have detoxed their traumas, triggers and toxic overloaded tissues."
~ Dee Anne Berry

I didn’t drink. I didn’t binge. I didn’t cut. I didn’t run. I stayed. I healed. I cried—a lot. Our natural detox. I let go with peace.

You are Love and You are Peace.
Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's capital.
Healing tender hearts with leaky bodies live in peace in a toxic world💜🥰💕🌻🙏

I’m so glad you’re spending these minutes here.
Your inner child feels seen.
Your future self feels safe.
And your healing begins with presence.

We are the sober holistic stress cleaners, the ones sick and tired of being sick and tired while being a good girl or boy, doing everything right.
No meds. no sugar. no meat. meditating loving kindness to all.

We don't even swear because everything is energy and what we send out comes back in all ways.

Alcohol and man made sugar hit women hardest.

They damage our liver, disrupt our gut and trigger non-alcoholic fatty liver disease.

I’ve been reversing mine since 2017—the year I took my power back from booze, diet coke and sugar.

Did you know that oreo's and diet coke cause fatty liver?

When I knew better I did better.

Did you know you can clean your toilet with diet coke?
Imagine what that does to our delicate microbiome that we are repairing to heal our leaky body.

Did you know cigarette companies bought Oreo’s sugar empire back in the 80s? It’s all connected.
Learn more in this video.

We’re talking about what harms the liver while learning how to love it back.

Detoxing trauma and toxins from our tissues—some of it stored since birth—so you can finally sleep eight hours without a fan, wake up clear and stay awake for 19 hours without needing a nap.

This is what healing looks like when you’ve lived with chronic inflammation since the womb.

When you grew up in a tense home with C-PTSD and childhood trauma.

When your body is on fire and your digestion is chaos—loose, constipated, no rhythm, no reason.
Just stress flares and survival mode. Fight, flight, fawn, freeze and flop.

Two of the biggest reasons people drink, numb with food and gain weight — that I’ve witnessed as a Buddhist Biohacker, C-PTSD peer supporter, suicide hotline volunteer, personal trainer and Reiki energy healer — are love and money. They are the deepest sources of human pain.

Adrienne Rich once wrote:

“An honourable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word ‘love’ — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other… because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.”

I thought I had this kind of love.

For more than 8 years, I loved a man to his bones. He saw me, the real me with no make up, bloated belly, medical anxiety, heard the night terrors, heard the traumas that no one else had heard.

All my shame that was keeping me stuck.
He never flinched. He never ran away.

He was my voice of grounded calm because I trusted he had my best interest at heart.

Our first date was at the hospital for an emergency ct scan Saturday Jan. 23rd 2016.

He came with me to all the appointments he could if he was in town due to my medical anxiety he was my safety person.

And then, one night at a party, the ground disappeared beneath me.

I learned there had been many betrayals long before that night. His defense was always the same, a cold refrain— “I never said we were a couple.”

Eight years of sharing a bed, meals, my body, my secrets, my pain—and somehow I was supposed to believe it meant nothing.

In that moment, I wasn’t just heartbroken. I felt foolish. I felt invisible.

I felt like the burden I had always feared I was.

BUT I never once thought of grabbing a drink...instead I cried for a month strait :)
I let the river flow out of me ...all the trauma stored in my tissues.

Excerpt from my working book By Dee Anne Berry

Some betrayals break your heart. Others break your body.
And the deepest ones—break your soul.

Sunday September 24, 2023 at 7pm was one of the darkest days of my life.

But it wasn’t the end. It was the beginning of a deeper unravelling.

Because on September 3, 2024, in my most vulnerable hour, he lied to the doctor and discarded me.

I had loved him for eight years.

To his bones. From a distance. While he drank. While I stayed sober.

While I tried to wake him up to his life.

But you can’t save someone who’s drowning and doesn’t want to come up for air.

And if you don’t set boundaries, they’ll take you down with them.

🧠 Why We Stay Sick

As a C-PTSD peer supporter, suicide hot line - trained guide, personal trainer, and master Reiki energy healer, I’ve seen this truth again and again:

Love and money are the two deepest sources of pain in the human experience. They drive addiction. They drive weight gain.
They drive us to numb.

But you can’t detox trauma with booze, sugar or distraction.

Because trauma lives in your tissues.
And those substances only make your body leak—your gut, your brain, your soul.

🧬 The Party That Broke Me

I hadn’t eaten for days—just to make sure my IBS wouldn’t trap me in the bathroom. I showed up smiling. He showed up nervous.

And then she walked in.

She knew everything about me.

I knew nothing about her.

Until I realized—she was the woman he’d been with for two years.

The one staying at his retreat. The one he never invited me to.
Not once. Not even after everything we’d been through.

I asked him why he didn’t respect me enough to tell me she was going to be at the party.
He said, “I thought you wouldn’t make it because of your health issues.”

This explained where he was after my mom suddenly passed with M.A.i.D.
And while I was grieving my mother, I was sending him grace.

I didn’t scream. I didn’t yell. I stayed calm.

Because that’s what parentified children do.
We hold it all in.
We carry the weight.
We protect everyone but ourselves.

😔 The Cry That He Didn’t Understand

I cried for 40 days. He asked, “Are you still crying?” I said, “Yes. This is what healing looks like.”

It took him four months to apologize. But it wasn’t real. Not the kind that says, “I’m sorry for hurting you while you were loving me.”

🩺 The Body Keeps the Score

I live with:

• C-PTSD + Diverticulitis + Hernias + Misophonia + Skin cancer spreading in 3rd year faster than I would like.

• Leaky body syndrome + sick building syndrome + mould illness

• Mold trauma

• Mast cell activation

• Histamine overload

• Chronic Stress since birth as a first born = Chronic inflammation = Invisible Illness = no disability = my dying with dignity journey
  

Stress is the driver of all disease. And silence is the fuel.

I had an emergency colonoscopy in December 2023.
I was bleeding badly.

And that’s when he emailed me to say he was a narcissist—
and that I should leave him.

I had held out hope that he was neurodivergent.
But narcissists know they’re narcissists.

He would often say, “I’ll never be the man you want me to be.”

I’d reply, “All I hope for is that you show love and tenderness toward yourself.”

They lie. They discard.
They live in clutter and chaos.
And they blame you for not stroking their fragile ego.

🌱 What Healing Looks Like

I stopped drinking. I stopped reaching for sugar.
I started detoxing with binders, charcoal and clay.
I rebuilt my microbiome. And calmed my vagus nerve.

I set boundaries and started telling those I love how I want to be treated because I felt I wasn’t being heard.

I am finding my voice at 58 and it feels GREAT! No more fear. Just peace. and Love.

I started sleeping—eight hours, no fan, no panic.
I started feeling parts of my body that were once dry and now flowing like a river again. :)

And the men I support no longer need the blue pill and their hair is growing back when they restore their microbiome, fatty liver with the Buddha Berry Tree Peace Method™.

I am 59 in 2 months :) Inner age is 41 as a biohacker since the 80’s.

Because healing isn’t just physical.
It’s emotional. It’s spiritual. It’s soul-deep.

🕊️ You Are Not Alone

If you’re sober but still suffering, don’t reach for sugar. Reach for breath. Reach for boundaries. Reach for your truth.

Because hurt people hurt people. But healed people heal people.

And the world needs more of us healed.
You are love.
You are not a burden. You are peace.
You are Energy. How is your energy?

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada’s Capital.
Learn more in today’s podcast for addiction peace.
Learn more in today's video, why women over 45 are most at risk for liver disease.

There comes a time to ask: when will it end? When will we reclaim our power from toxic sugar—a product so addictive that cigarette companies invested in it decades ago to ensure a new generation would stay hooked?

This truth is why I’ve had to pause my life. As I shared in this week’s latest video @DeStresswithDee, I am now detoxing a lifetime of pain and suffering stored in my tissues since birth. I am reversing life-threatening leaky muscle, 40+ other leaky body barriers and skin cancer that is spreading faster than I would like.

This message is for my son and for every soul still reaching for comfort in sugar, screens or survival patterns. So many think that because they aren’t drinking they are doing no harm to their mental, physical and emotional health.

This is for the Mothers who didn’t know better, now trying to fix the wrongs they did by giving cookies, chips and microwave popcorn treats.

Now their bodies are leaking because the microbiome and our gut lining have been destroyed, causing fatty liver, anxiety, depression, adhd and silent suffering because of the blood brain barrier.

My life long anxiety, depression, adhd, insomnia, ibs are now reversed once I detoxed toxins, trauma and tissues from my body.
I show you how here

Dear Parentified Parent, First-Born Stress Cleaner, Tender Daughter —

How are you? Are you okay? How are your children? Are their bodies leaky too?

This one’s for you. For my son, my heart with wings. And for every adult child who wasn’t parentified, but still reaches for comfort food, cookies or sugar to feel close to someone they love. To feel safe. To feel good. To feel… something.

Sugar gives us that endorphin hit. That quick “I’m okay.” Especially when it’s tied to love — mom’s baking, family rituals, the moments that felt safe.

But comfort food isn’t always comforting. Sometimes it’s just a quiet way of numbing pain we haven’t named.

🍪 For the Cookie Monsters We Raised

I called my son the cookie monster. Affectionately. Lovingly. But I also gave him the same treats my mom gave me — two cookies a day.
I wanted him to feel loved.
I didn’t want you to feel the grief of an absent father like I did and all the stress, pain and exhaustion I carried growing up.

But sugar isn’t love. It’s a substitute. And it’s time we rewrite the script on what “treats” really are.

🧠 For the Parentified Single Parent

You’re working 2 or 3 jobs. You’re doing everything for your kids. You’re breaking the cycle. You’re letting your child be a child.

But you haven’t stopped taking care of everyone else. You haven’t stopped trying to keep the peace. You haven’t stopped running — even when your body is begging you to pause.

You’re drowning your pain in:

• ice cream

• white bread

• pop

• fast food

• fast fashion

• one-night stands

• porn

• gossip

• scrolling

• over exercising

And you’re wondering why you still don’t feel better, even after quitting booze.

🌿 What Pain Are You Numbing?

This Addiction Peace Sunday, ask yourself:

What childhood abandonment wound am I still soothing with my addiction of choice? An absent father is a burden we share. History repeats until the lesson is learned.

True healing isn't just about quitting. It's about listening. It's about loving your inner child like your life depends on it.

Because it does.

🧘‍♀️ How We Heal

As a Buddhist, I believe in doing no harm. That includes what we put into our bodies and the words we say to ourselves and others.
We are all connected.
I have been using food as medicine since the 80’s because I was scared of doctors and how they treated my brilliant mom.

Those negative thoughts in your head aren’t facts. They’re echoes.

Feed your inner child the words they needed when you were hurting.
Pause when stress rises.
Breathe with a soft belly.
Detox your body and your environment — because your leaky body is finally saying “enough.”

We don’t collapse or burnout in midlife because of age.

We collapse because of inflammation.
Because of toxins. Man made sugar is a toxin.

Because our bodies carried too much for too long.
You were never burden. Your tissues are overburdened.

💛 My Journey to Addiction Peace

I stopped drinking in 2017.
Stopped smoking in 2020.
Stopped drowning in sugar once I understood the root cause: C-PTSD, PTSD, chronic illness and toxic environments.

I’ve lived with invisible illnesses and been denied disability with a compromised immune system since birth living with building sickness syndrome, mould Illness., C-PTSD, MCAS, CIRS, IBS and more.
Full body collapse from 8 cytokine storms.
Been betrayed by people I trusted to help me heal.

But I kept going. For my son. For you. For every soul afraid of doctors, hospitals and being misunderstood.

I’ve cracked the code on chronic illness, mental health, suicide, weight loss and addiction after 11 years of trying to uncover the root cause of life long issues that no doctor test could uncover.

And I’m here to say: it’s not aging. It’s not anxiety. It’s not menopause. It’s toxicity.

🩵 Final Reflection

To my son: You are not broken. You are not your negative thoughts. You are not addicted.
You are loved. And you are learning to love yourself—one bite, one breath, one brave moment at a time.

Healing looks like two to three S-shaped stools a day after we eat and when we wake.
Quickly in and quickly out of the bathroom with just two or three squares of tissue.

It’s sleeping eight hours deeply—no fan needed—and having so much energy that at 60, you never need a nap.
It’s loving your inner child so fully that you finally feel safe in the world.

It’s making choices each day that keep your inner child protected now and that your future self will thank you for.

To every parentified parent:
You are allowed to rest.
You are allowed to ask for help.
You are allowed to receive.
You are allowed to stop doing and start being.
It is your medicine.
The only person who can take care of you is you.

To every tender heart reading this:
You are not your cravings.
You are not your coping.
You are a soul who survived.
And now you are ready to heal.

Each share is for my son—in case I’m not near to give him the healing tools no doctor could… the ones that saved my life.

You are Love.
You are Peace.
You are Energy.
How is your Energy?

De-stress with Dee for c-ptsd peace in your moments.
Sending loving kindness from Canada’s Capital,
Momma Lovey Dee

But this isn’t about drama or dysfunction. It’s often a signal from your nervous system that inflammation, trauma or hidden illness are at play.

Today, I want to unpack what misophonia might really mean—and how it may be connected to CIRS (mould illness), MCAS (mast cell activation), C-PTSD and yes, even the leaky brain.

💡 Genetic Roots: Why You May React So Intensely to Sound

I carry a variant near the TENM2 gene—linked to increased sensitivity to chewing sounds. This genetic quirk may wire the auditory cortex too closely with the limbic system which controls emotional responses like rage, panic or dread.

But genetics alone aren’t destiny. What switches these systems into hyperdrive?

🔥 The Inflammatory Circuit: Mould, Mast Cells & Brain Permeability

Let’s connect the dots:

• CIRS (Chronic Inflammatory Response Syndrome): Mould exposure triggers cytokines like TNF-α, activating your fight-or-flight system. You feel under siege… by sound.

• MCAS (Mast Cell Activation Syndrome): Mast cells live near sensory nerves. When they release histamine into your brain, sensory “gating” breaks down. Even small noises can feel like alarms.

• C-PTSD & Limbic Looping: Trauma primes the amygdala to overreact. Combine this with inflammation and you get misophonia as a symptom—not just a standalone condition.

• Leaky Brain Syndrome: If the blood-brain barrier is compromised (from mould, trauma, infections), molecules like IL-6 and MMP-9 enter your brain and heighten reactivity.

🧬 Genetic & Functional Testing

Testing helps identify your body’s unique healing needs:

• HLA-DR/DQ: How your immune system handles mould and toxins.

• MARCoNS: A stubborn biofilm-forming staph bacteria in your nose blocking healing.

• TGF-β1: An inflammatory marker indicating brain and lung inflammation.

• Histamine + DAO: Shows if your body breaks down histamine well or is overloaded.

🌡️ MCAS Interventions

To calm histamine storms and allergic flares:

• Low-Histamine Diet: Avoid fermented, aged or leftover foods.

• Quercetin + Luteolin: Plant-based natural antihistamines that gently calm inflammation.

• H1/H2 blockers: Pharmaceuticals like famotidine offer relief in extreme flares but may impact gut health long-term. I prefer fasting and natural antihistamines focusing on healing root causes—mould, inflammation, trauma.

🦠 CIRS Recovery Tools

For healing mould, biotoxins and chronic inflammation:

Cholestyramine (CSM):
A prescription binder originally used for cholesterol, now used to pull mould toxins from bile into stool.

It can be intense and isn’t well-tolerated by everyone, especially those with trauma or sensitive guts.

I personally choose gentle binders like bentonite clay and activated charcoal, which trap toxins and support the gut softly. Pair these with movement, hydration and lymphatic support for best results.

Omega-3s (Fish Oil or Algae Oil):
Calm inflammation in the brain, gut and body.

I skip fish oil and opt for plant-based sources like my daily spirulina—a blue-green algae rich in omega-3s, antioxidants and minerals. It supports my brain, energy and detox pathways during mould recovery.

🧠 Limbic System Retraining

When trauma or chronic illness hijacks your nervous system, the brain can get stuck in fight-flight-freeze. Limbic retraining helps your brain learn safety again so healing can begin.

• DNRS (Dynamic Neural Retraining System): Uses visualization, affirmations and movement to reprogram trauma loops and calm overreactions to triggers.

• Gupta Program: A gentle mind-body approach combining neuroplasticity, meditation and compassionate self-talk to build new pathways of safety and trust.

• Breathwork: Conscious slow breathing activates your parasympathetic nervous system—rest, digest, heal mode. Just a few minutes can shift panic into peace.

• HRV Training (Heart Rate Variability): Measures how well your nervous system adapts to stress. Training HRV builds resilience—like working out your “peace muscle.”

🧬 Blood-Brain Barrier Support

To protect your brain from toxins and reduce sensory overload:

• Glycine: Calms the brain and supports detox.

• Resveratrol: An antioxidant reducing inflammation and protecting brain cells.

• Sauna Therapy: Sweats out toxins and boosts circulation.

• Circadian Rhythm: Regular sleep-wake cycles aid natural brain detox.

🕐 The Liver’s Detox Window: 1 AM – 3 AM

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine and modern biology, the liver’s peak detox time is between 1 and 3 AM. During this deep sleep phase, your liver filters blood, metabolizes toxins and processes hormones.

Waking in this window may mean your liver is overwhelmed—common in mould illness, CIRS, MCAS or sugar imbalance.

To support your liver:

• Be in bed by 9:30–10 PM.

• Avoid sugar, alcohol and artificial foods late in the day.

• End screen time 1–2 hours before sleep.

• Use binders, teas, castor oil packs or red light therapy for gentle support.

🌿 My Personal Healing Staples

Everyday tools I rely on:

• Clay + Charcoal: Bind toxins in the gut.

• Soil-Based Probiotics: Strengthen and balance gut flora.

• L-Glutamine + Healing Teas: Repair gut lining and soothe nerves.

• Grounding Mat: Reconnect to Earth’s calming energy.

• Red Light Therapy: Supports cellular healing and energy.

• Lymphatic Drainage: Moves stagnant toxins and boosts detox flow.

🧠 Symptoms You May Not Realize Are Connected

• Misophonia: Panic at unexpected sounds—like dogs barking or airplanes. I grew up near an airport and live under a flight path now. My nervous system never got a break.

• Sound rage during inflammation flares

• Histamine intolerance

• Sensory overwhelm during mould exposure

If this feels familiar, you’re not “too sensitive.” You’re too inflamed. And that’s reversible.
Important to know: Misophonia, chronic stress since birth for the highly sensitive parentified child and related sensory overload conditions have been linked to higher risks of anxiety, depression and sadly, suicide—especially in teen girls and young adults around 24 years old. My dark thoughts were always stronger in mouldy spaces.

learn more in this video

♾️ A Love Note to My Son, Noah

Your sound sensitivity isn’t brokenness—it’s brilliance asking for protection. Don’t let anyone dismiss what your body is trying to say.

“You’re not lazy. You’re leaking. And we can fix that.”
— Momma Lovey Dee

Soul medicine for my boy Noah.
(CIRS • MCAS • CPTSD truths pharma won’t teach.)

If I’m ever gone, let these words be my hands still holding you. ♾️

"What poison did your parents think was normal… that you’re now unlearning?"
~ Dee

This isn’t just about alcohol.
It’s about sugar. Screens. Sleep aids. Caffeine. Fast food.

It’s about the habits we inherited and called "harmless"
The coping rituals we mastered
The "rewards" that punished us instead

For many—especially our children—true healing begins where colourful plates never arrived.

🧠 For the Highly Sensitive & Never-Truly-Sober

Your sugar cravings? Your screen addiction? Your sleep struggles?
These are your nervous system’s flares—not failures.

When your cells know only inflammation, overstimulation and survival mode
Peace becomes the rarest nutrient of all.

We don’t need shame. We need sacred responsibility.

🍰 Why We Poison Ourselves to Celebrate

We were taught to:
• Reward effort with self-sabotage
• Soothe pain with inflammation
• Mark love with cake and loss with cocktails

But what if we relearned celebration as protection?
What if your child’s food fixation isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom crying out?

🧰 Your Addiction Peace Toolkit

Real nourishment looks like:
✔️ Plates coloured by earth—not factories
💧 Spring water and herbal teas as sacred staples
🤝 Connection that fills—not drains—your cup
😴 Rest as rebellion against grind culture
🌿 Gentle detox as self-honouring

This is the peace your leaky body has craved since birth.

🌼 My Daily "Treats" Now

• Waking without pain
• Sleeping without a fan’s roar
• Food without fear
• Bathrooms as places of peace—not prisons
• Nights breathing easy
• "No" as a complete sentence
• "Yes" to my inner child’s whispers

This is what safety tastes like.

💌 To the Tender-Hearted Warriors

That "liquid courage"? It didn’t make you brave—it drowned the bravery already in you.

The pills don’t fix—they fog.
The cake doesn’t celebrate—it corrodes.

But healing? Healing hands you back your power.

Let’s honour:
🧡 The first morning you bypass the sugar
🧡 The week your digestion hums happily
🧡 The moment you realize: "I’m finally home in my skin."

You were born into systems that profit from your leaks.
But you?

You are both the medicine and the miracle.

✨ This Week’s Practice

💬 In the comments:
"This week I celebrate ______"
(A deep sleep? A toxic ‘no’? Your first homemade broth?)

To those who parented the world before themselves:
Every sealed leak is sacred rebellion.

With love from another leaky body finding peace
Momma Lovey Dee :)

🌕 P.S. Moon Water Upgrade

• Jar + filtered water

• Pinch of dried pomegranate peel (liver love)

• "I honour my healing" on paper beneath

• Charge in moonlight or sunlight

• Sip at dawn as cellular communion
  
  Are Screens & Sugar Secretly Destroying Your Gut-Brain Connection?

  

  
  

Wine may numb the ache of unmet needs. Fans blasting through sleepless nights aren’t just about temperature — they’re survival rituals from a body stuck in fight-or-flight.

Even excessive workouts can be a trauma response disguised as discipline.

When your nervous system is inflamed (from trauma, mold exposure, chronic stress), these patterns aren’t simply habits — they’re protective loops.

The problem is, they keep the body hot, anxious, restless and disconnected from peace.

It’s not about shame or judgment. It’s about realizing that healing means listening deeper — beyond the craving — to what your system is truly asking for.

You’re not alone if you feel ruled by:

🍔 Fast food & sugar

🍷 Booze & pills

📱 Porn & video games

💪 Overexercising after illness

🛍️ Shopping, pop, ice cream — anything to numb the ache

After 58 years of soaked sheets and fan-blasting insomnia, I finally sleep like a baby — no fan, no heatwave, no spinning thoughts. The missing piece?

Detoxing mould and trauma from my tissues.

And remembering that peace starts in the nervous system, not the product aisle.

🔗 Watch today’s deep dive on YouTube @ 11:11

Sober Soul Care Sunday for Addiction Peace on a Poisoned Planet.
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Sending Loving Kindness from under the trees,
You are the seed to protect your Buddha Berry Tree,
protect your peace like your life depends on it…because it does.
Dee

Many of us were born toxic in the womb, carrying the weight of inflammation, trauma and environmental exposure before we ever took our first breath.

And we’ve been adding to that toxic load ever since — through what we eat, drink, breathe and believe.

✨ But there is hope. You can reverse chronic inflammation, MCAS, histamine intolerance and the dis-ease that’s been silently shaping your life since birth.

When we stop adding toxins to our liver and start detoxing mould from our bodies and environments, we begin to heal not just our livers — but our lives and our lineage.

We can reverse non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, restore our microbiome and reclaim our peace.

🌀 Earth Age: 58.5 | Inner Age: 41 That’s what healing from the inside out looks like.

Through De-Stress with Dee, I support parentified souls and chronically ill children — from womb to wellness, from survival to peace — on a planet that hasn’t always been kind to our bodies.

🕊️ You are not broken. You are biologically burdened — and you can heal.
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