Addiction Peace Starts with the Parents

"Your relationships dictate your worth."~ Dee Anne Berry

Sober Soul Growth Sunday: 3,071 Days of Sovereignty

Addiction Peace, The “Lovebirds” Anniversary & The Cellular Cost of Staying

Today is a sacred day in our nest. It is a day of triple celebration, reflection and the bittersweet beauty of transition.

Not only am I celebrating 3,071 days since I reclaimed my power back from booze on Nov 21, 2017, but it is also my miracle son Noah’s 27.5-year half-birthday. Born after nine miscarriages because I had a toxic womb and a leaky body, he is truly my “heart with wings.”

Adding to the joy, today is the 3rd anniversary of Noah and his love. Witnessing their relationship right here in our non-toxic nest has been the greatest gift. They communicate, they lift each other up and they check in from 1–10 with each other. It is a family affair. It is the healthiest, most rooted relationship I have ever seen—because it was built on a foundation of peace.

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Addiction Peace Starts with the Parents

People ask me how Noah reached nearly three decades without a single drop or puff.
It wasn’t luck. It was a conscious, daily architectural build. I put a healthy fear of the cycle in him because I knew our HLA-DR genetics meant his body wouldn’t just “process” toxins—it would be hijacked by them.

But Addiction Peace isn’t just about substances. It is about our addiction to toxic souls.

The Mother-Father Wound & The CDR

Most of us stay in “heartless” relationships because we are subconsciously trying to heal a mother or father wound from our own first 1,000 days. We stay “for the kids,” not realizing that a heartless partner triggers a chronic Cell Danger Response (CDR) in everyone under that roof.

When you stay in toxicity, you teach your children’s cells that “survival mode” is love.
I stayed too long “taking notes” on narcissists, but the final lesson was this:

You cannot heal a person committed to their own toxicity, but you can stop the damage to your future cells and soul.

A Tip for Parents: Vulnerable Connection

If you want your children (especially boys) to share more, do something active with them.
Don’t just ask “how are you”—ask where they are from 1–10 mentally and physically.

At our meals, we ask:

1. What was the highlight?

2. What was the hard part?

3. What did you learn new today?

Those of us with a love of learning have younger brains. At an Earth age of 59.5, my cellular age is 41—and I want that for you, too!

The Bittersweet Transition

In a few months, the lovebirds will fly the nest, moving five hours away to be closer to her family. I am soaking up every talk, hug, meal and Scrabble game we have left.

As I prepare for a solo life, I am looking for another “rare bird”—a non-toxic roommate who craves stillness. No scents, no booze, no processed foods, no swearing and no man-made meds that toxic-up our cells and keep us reactive.

I am looking for a fellow “silly goose” healer and stress-cleaner who has moved from being parentified and petrified to loving their own soul and loving living solo for many years to come. If you know anyone please let them know I have non-toxic nest for them :)

The Only Person Who Can Take Care of You is YOU

I’m righting the wrongs of the “cookies” I gave when I didn’t know better.

When we know better, we must do better for cellular and spiritual renewal. We use Mother Nature’s medicine cabinet to build roots that last 100+ years.

Everything is connected.

Sending loving kindness from Canada’s capital,
Dee
Mothering Unmothered cells & soul.
Non-Toxic Mom to Noah for our nontoxic nest and yours.
Earth Age is 59.5
Cellular age is 41 and I want that for you too!

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