🌻 Sober Soulcare Sunday: When Words Feel Like a Punch in the Gut
Hello Peaceful Heart, how are you doing from 1-10?
This week, I shared something tender and personal: letting go of a wedding dress I never wore. It wasn’t bitterness — it was a ritual of gratitude for a karmic relationship that taught me so much.
A few hours later, my friends gently brought something to my attention: A comment on that post from an aquaintance had written:
> “You need help.”
I just giggled and said, “It’s OK.”
I’m leaving it there — not out of passivity, but as a teachable moment. Because we don’t react. We protect our peace.
💔 That pain — you know it, don’t you?
The sting of being dismissed. The ache of being misunderstood. The echo of childhood moments where your big feelings were too much for others to hold.
But here’s what I’ve learned as a Highly Sensitive Empath, a quiet observer, a survivor of C-PTSD:
✨ We don’t match energy.
✨ We manage ours like it’s sacred — because it is.
🧠 I’ve loved many narcissists. I’ve learned their patterns.
They don’t want resolution. They want control. They speak to hear themselves, not to connect. They’re always right. You’re always wrong. There’s no room for dialogue — only dominance.
But we know better now. We don’t carry their projections. We trust the Universe to handle what we don’t need to hold.
🌿 Why do people sometimes hurt others with their words?
Because they’re hurting.
They carry anger, fear, grief
or shame they don’t know how to face. So they push it outward.
They aren’t in touch with their own energy or peace. They don’t see how their words harm.
They often live without meaningful, safe relationships — because they don’t truly love themselves.
💔 Why do people say mean things when I didn’t do anything wrong?
A message for your inner child — and for our actual children:
When someone lashes out, it’s rarely about you. It’s about the pain they’re carrying — pain they haven’t learned to feel, name, or release.
Imagine them holding a backpack stuffed with invisible feelings — sadness, anger, fear. If they don’t know how to unpack it, they throw it at others instead.
🌻 Highly Sensitive Empaths (HSEs) are different.
We were often “parentified” as kids. We learned to care for everyone else but not ourselves.
So instead of hurting others, we hurt ourselves.
We turned to alcohol, sugar, screens, work, shopping — anything to numb the pain.
We made ourselves small. Quiet. “Easy.” We thought our value was in avoiding conflict and absorbing others’ pain.
But none of that healed us.
🕊️ What changes things?
We wake up. We realize no one is coming to save us.
We begin the daily work of reparenting ourselves:
✨ learning self-love
✨ building self-worth
✨ creating healthy boundaries
✨ healing our nervous systems
We choose to stop numbing and start feeling. We choose not to pass on our pain — but also not to keep absorbing theirs.
💖 You’re doing the brave work.
You’re breaking cycles. You’re learning to feel, to rest, to speak, to stay.
And that’s what makes you powerful.
🫶 To the children watching you heal — and the child within you still waiting to be held — this is how we change the story. One pause. One breath. One boundary at a time.
🎥 Watch the full video here on YouTube on how to protect your peace.
When Words Hurt: Empath Healing & Protecting Your Peace
With love and light,
Dee
