The International Women’s Day Debt: Honouring the First-born Female Fixer
The International Women’s Day Debt: Honouring the First-born Female
I see you. I am you. At 59, my cells are 41. Here is how we stop “pushing” and start “pausing.”
Yesterday, the world celebrated women. But for the First-born Female Fixer, the celebration often feels like just another day carrying the heavy invisible bag of everyone else’s worries.
I am currently nursing three first-born souls back to health after the system dismissed them. They are just hanging on, stuck in the mud.
We are the ones who were “little adults” before we were even children. We are the high-sensing souls who can feel a shift in the room’s energy before a word is spoken. We lead lives of immense love but by midlife, that love has turned into a flickering candle. We are burning out because our bodies have been paying a “Fixer Tax” in cortisol, adrenaline and chronic pain for decades.
It’s not what the system calls menopause. It is CIRS, MCAS, MTHFR, histamine overload, mould illness, sick building syndrome, your lifestyle, diet and the meds you put into your body.
By midlife your body’s bucket is overflowing and leaking with leaky stools, eyes, ears, nose, chronic cough, seizures, heart attacks, panic attacks, MS and more. Our bodies are protecting us. If we won’t stop, they are making us stop.
The 59/41 Miracle
I have lived this. I am you. For 40 years, I navigated a medical system that tried to discard me, labelling my environmental illness as “mental.” Out of sheer survival and necessity, I turned to the earth and my own biology.
Since the ‘80s, I have practised a frugal, root-cause lifestyle—no man-made synthetic meds, just the deep medicine of autophagy.
The Result: I am 59 years old but my biological cells are 41.
The Peaceful Path: Stools, Sleep, Soul and Cells I want the same for you. Your ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score might be high, but your future can be peaceful. Mine is 9/10.
If I can do it. You can. I have suffered unspeakable violence and abuse in almost every relationship I had. I even stayed in bad ones because at least I was being fed. When you have housing and food insecurity, having a warm nurturing meal is everything. I love food but it never loved me. I thought.
I was wrong.
I didn’t buy my way into health; I rested my way there. I mothered my unmothered self until my cells felt safe enough to stop fighting. This is the heart of the Buddhist Biohacker Bible.
Peaceful Stools & Soil: Healing the gut and the home environment simultaneously.
Peaceful Sleep: Recalibrating the high-sensing nervous system.
Peaceful Cells: Using autophagy to clear out biological “trash.”
An Invitation to Peaceful U I am turning my four decades of survival into a map for you. On March 17, 2027, I am opening Peaceful U on Skool. I will teach you how to heal yourself frugally, mother the unmothered first-born fixer and training a new generation of Soul Peace Practitioners using the BodhiBerry Peace Tree Method & the DBM-5 before my time runs out.
It is time to stop the systemic discard. It is time to come home to yourself.
I have left the link to the ACE test in the pinned comment of my latest video
and the link to Skool is on Substack home page
Are you a First-born Fixer? How has the “Fixer Tax” shown up in your body? Let’s discuss in the comments.