You Are the Medicine: Sensitive Souls, Childhood Trauma & Ending the Cycle

Honouring survivors on the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women

Today, November 25, is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women—a day that echoes through the bodies and nervous systems of so many trauma survivors.

Especially the first-born, parentified, petrified souls… the ones who tried to hold the family together with a sensitive heart and no roadmap.

🌱 When Chaos Is Your Childhood, You Think It’s Love

For many of us, love was absent or unpredictable. There were no hugs, no soft words. Sometimes there was yelling. Sometimes silence. Sometimes fear.

And as children, we adapt. We tell ourselves: This must be what love feels like. This must be normal.

It sets the blueprint. Chaos becomes familiar.
Neglect feels like home. And peace feels uncomfortable.

✨ Sensitive Souls Attract What Feels Familiar

Highly sensitive children often grow into highly intuitive, empathetic adults. We become the peacekeepers, the mediators, the emotional translators.

But when you grow up feeling like a burden, you often attract people who confirm that wound—people who drain your light, mistake your softness for weakness, or call their harm “a moment” while your body stores it as a lifetime.

Not because you’re broken, but because your nervous system is repeating the familiar.

🧡 You Were Never the Burden — You Were the Blessing

You were the light. You were the heart. You were the sensitive soul trying to survive environments too heavy for your spirit.

The harm wasn’t your destiny—it was your conditioning.

🌿 Breaking the Cycle Starts with Inner Child Healing

Ending patterns of narcissistic abuse doesn’t begin with romantic partners. It begins with the child inside you who never felt safe:

• The child who grew up too fast

• The child who took care of adults

• The child who believed they were “too sensitive”

• The child who received emotional scraps and called it love

When we heal that part of ourselves, everything changes. We stop accepting crumbs. We stop confusing intensity with intimacy. We stop attracting people who harm us.

And we start choosing people who offer steadiness, safety, gentleness and peace.

✨ You Are Love. You Are Peace. You Are Energy.

When your energy shifts inward, your relationships shift outward.

You get to choose what your energy allows. You get to choose what peace feels like in your body. You get to choose what love looks like from here on.

Today, we honour every survivor—every woman, every girl, every sensitive soul, every person who grew up believing pain was normal and is now learning it isn’t.

Healing isn’t a return. Healing is a homecoming.

🧡 Sending loving-kindness from Canada’s capital, Dee — Dee, Let’s Talk! 🌿